New King James Version (NKJV)
31 Then the Jews who were with her in the house, and comforting her, when they saw that Mary rose up quickly and went out, followed her, saying, “She is going to the tomb to weep there.”
32 Then, when Mary came where Jesus was, and saw Him, she fell down at His feet, saying to Him, “Lord, if You had been here, my brother would not have died.”
33 Therefore, when Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who came with her weeping, He groaned in the spirit and was troubled. 34 And He said, “Where have you laid him?”
They said to Him, “Lord, come and see.”
35 Jesus wept. 36 Then the Jews said, “See how He loved him!”
As I have put together the facts of this post, it has been a very difficult time for me. The truth of the pain that comes from death has drawn tears from my eyes, as I am relating it to a local situation.
This morning, during a ministers’ meeting, I learned that a local area pastor was performing a funeral. In his congregation there was a woman who was pregnant with twins. She had recently learned that she has cancer, so she was advised to have birth induced; the twins were about half way through the pregnancy. About a week ago, the twins were born. After a few hours of life one of the babies died. The pastor performed the funeral. A few days ago, the second twin was taken off life support. Today, the pastor was performing the second twin’s funeral. Oh, how severe the pain must be for the mother, the family, the church, and other friends. So, do we know if Jesus hurts, when we hurt?
In the account of John 11, Jesus agonized (vs 33) within Himself when He recognized the pain that the family and friends of Lazarus were feeling. When Jesus saw the body of Lazarus, scripture says, very simply, that “Jesus wept.” Yes! Jesus, who was the creator of the world, (Colossians 1:16-17), and who was also, “God with us,” (Matthew 1:23), was moved to tears when he encountered death and the affect that death had on “the living.”
What do we say to a grieving mother, as I have described in this writing? Some years ago, as I was serving as a volunteer hospital chaplain, a much wiser and older chaplain shared one day in a training session, “we don’t know why such horrible things as death happen.” Death was not a part of God’s plan for humanity. It is horrible to lose someone that we love. And, yes! It is a loss. We all know that we will see our saved loved ones in eternity, but between now and then, our life will be changed by that death, and may be totally turned upside down; and it will never, ever, be the same. Those of us who have experienced the loss that is due to death have had emotionally emptying questions, for which there seem to be no answer. We don’t know what to do, to remove the pain. We don’t know what to say, to rationalize the tragedy. We don’t know where to go, to hide from the pain. And, we don’t what to think, when nothing seems to make any sense. I have provided a video that addresses those issues. I trust that it will be of comfort to those of you who may be grieving as you read this account of death. Please know that I don’t have the answers to the question that you may have about your personal grief, but I “do hurt” for you, and I “do care.” So that you can see and hear the video, you will have to click onto the post. May our Lord Jesus provide the comfort that can come only from Him. And Yes! Jesus does care when we hurt.
Pastor/Equipping The Saints