At the time of this writing, it is nine days until Christmas eve. Earlier today, as I was driving through a sleepy area of my city, a dreary air was cast over the town. The sky was heavily cloud covered, and dark. A light mist was falling. Very few people were seen on the streets. The day seemed to match the condition of the story that I was hearing on Moody Radio, which was a feeling of utter despair for couples experiencing struggles in their marriages.
This is the fourth year that I have published this article, with this being the second time that I have published it this year. Minor changes are made each time that I update this article, but never is an update just a carbon copy of the previous post, but is due to the prompting of the Holy Spirit. Each time, before I publish this article, I will listen to the videos without interruption, and each time strong emotions emerge from within me, and tears begin to flow. Today, as usual, my throat and jaw tightened, and tears would not stop finding their way onto my cheeks. But very noticeably, today, the emotions that I felt were much stronger than ever in the past, and the tears flowed much longer that I can ever remember.
The story of Jacob and Marlee is that, just a story. But, I know that their situation is one that many married couples, “are facing, have faced, or will face,” in their marriages. The conditions of this afternoon made me understand that many struggling couples need to come to the truth that they need to “not give up,” on their marriages, but to try to make their marriages work.
Not all marriages are dying, or are dead, due to infidelity, but there is a high percentage of marriages that are failing because of affairs. A thought come into my mind while I was driving today, just as it has in the past; it is still with me now, and relates to infidelity. That thought is very strong, and is this: “If you are in an affair, “GET OUT OF IT!” Just get out! Don’t wait! Just get out! Get your life right with God! Please understand that which I am saying, and that which I am not saying. I am saying that if you are in an affair, “GET OUT” of the affair; “JUST GET OUT!” “DON’T WAIT!” “JUST GET OUT!” “GET YOUR LIFE RIGHT WITH GOD!” The knight in shining armor, standing on a lush green field, may have his armor to tarnish, and the grass under his feet to turn from rich green to dirty brown. No one really can be sure if the grass is greener, until they’re standing in it.
Consider a memorable story of another couple.
Luke 2:1-10 Christ Born of Mary
As is recorded in the above scripture, Mary and Joseph were on their way to Bethlehem, where Mary would give birth to Jesus, the Savior of the world. Consider the story of Marlee and Jacob, and their “Christmas Eve” journey; it was being made for quite a different reason. The recording of Marlee and Jacob may be difficult for some of you; I understand that. I moderate all comments to this blog. If anybody comments on this post, I will not publish that comment without gaining permission to do so.
If you are considering a Christmas Eve “divorce papers appointment” please, let me ask you to listen carefully to the following audio recording of Marlee and Jacob, as they are on their way to sign their papers, “on Christmas Eve.” Listen very attentively. As you listen, think about your wedding vows. Think about your marriage. Think about your children. Please understand that marriage is worth fighting for.
After you have read, listened to, and watched everything that is in this post, please ask yourself a very personal question (you can answer to yourself). Here it is. When you are having a conversation on social media with a “friend” of the opposite sex, “do you get a rush, or a spark?” If your answer is “yes,” maybe social media is not something that you should have as a part of your life.
As you have learned from the video of Marlee and Jacob, they were married on Christmas Eve, “twenty years ago.” On this particular Christmas Eve, the couple is headed to an attorney’s office to sign divorce papers. Think about Marlee, Jacob, and your marriage situation. Do you remember the words that you and your mate said to each other as you stood before God, the minister, family and friends, and the rest of the people who were watching and listening as you professed your love for one another? If you have forgotten those special words, I have written some words from a traditional wedding vow for you to consider. Please read them now.
“To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish…’til death do us part.”
Please understand that I have no room for spousal abuse in a marriage.
Your particular marriage may not be failing, but there are others, of whom you know, whose marriages are falling apart. Please share this post with those people.
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